The human sexual response was created in the mid-1950s and 1960, created by Master and Johnson, and is still used with reference today.

According to that study, the sexual response cycle, it has 4 steps explained below.

This sexual response cycle works in exactly the same way for both men and women, both will have to go through these 4 steps of the sexual response cycle, but what changes is the speed of these stages.

Male orgasm and ejaculation for men in tantric massage always cause confusion and many doubts that think that the two are the same. Ejaculation is nothing more than the expulsion of sperm via the urethra, while orgasm is the sensation of pleasure that can occur separately or simultaneously with ejaculation.

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Male orgasm and ejaculation is actually outlined by four distinct phases, of which orgasm is the third. However, the duration and intensity of these phases may vary, the experience will proceed in a strictly specific way.


Excitement is the desire, the libido, the willingness, it is the burning fire inside each person, the lust, some people complain that they do not have libido, that is, we are talking about this first stage of desire, this issue of desire can come either for hormonal reasons or for emotional reasons, so if the person has many emotional problems, with a lot of stress in their daily lives, lost a loved one, was fired from work, there were more stressful situations, it can directly affect this issue of libido and desire.

Excitation is the stage when physical, sensory and emotional signals cause the brain to release a neurotransmitter known as acetylcholine. This, in turn, triggers the release of nitric oxide in the arteries of the penis, for example, causing them to expand and rapidly fill with blood. The resulting erection is usually accompanied by changes in breathing, increased general muscle tension and retraction of the scrotum.


In women, it is characterized by an improvement or increase in lubrication and in men it is characterized by an erection, both of which occur by increased blood flow in the genital region, so when we are excited our body takes blood to our genital region which is what will make us ready for penetration.

Plateau is the phase immediately before orgasm, in which voluntary movements of the body, specifically the pelvis, suddenly become involuntary, increasing in intensity and speed. It is at this stage that the heart rate increases to between 150 and 175 beats per minute, accompanied by a sharp increase in blood pressure and body temperature.

For men traces of seminal fluid (“pre-semen”) can leak from the urethra. The release of pre-ejaculatory fluid is more than just incidental; it changes the pH of the urethra so that the sperm has a better chance of survival.

In total, the plateau phase lasts between 30 seconds and two minutes.


Orgasm, physiologically explained, is an adrenaline rush and can happen anywhere in the body, most women think that orgasm can only happen via penetration, but orgasm can happen anywhere in the body, both for men and for women. 

It can be an orgasm via the clitoral, via vaginal, via anal, via nipple, via dream, who has never had an erotic dream and had an orgasm? 

Orgasm does not depend solely and exclusively on penetration. 

Men are also able to have orgasms without penetration, only with the stimulation of the imaginative, without penetration, in tantra massage is commonly known as “dry orgasm”.

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For men, the orgasm phase is divided into two parts. The first, known as emission, is the stage at which form ejaculation is inevitable.

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This is immediately followed by the second stage, ejaculation, in which strong contractions of the penis, anus and perineal muscles help to boost the body’s semen.

During orgasm, the brain’s reward center (specifically the cerebellum, amygdala, nucleus accumbens, and ventral tegmental area) is flooded with neurochemicals, prompting the intense emotional response associated with an orgasm.

At the same time, the lateral orbitofrontal cortex located behind the left eye is completely disconnected. This is the part of the brain that plays a central role in judgment and self-control. The effect explains why people often describe an orgasm as a state in which “nothing else matters”.

Cramps at the time of orgasm is not an uncommon thing to happen, we also have some involuntary contractions in the genital region that will happen in both women and men and then right after that adrenaline spike, we have a spike in the release of endorphin and serotonin, which is the time for the muscles to relax, for that sleep, for laziness, that is, it is our body going into a state of calm.


The refraction is the period that our body needs to recover for a next intercourse.

For men, they have quick desire, quick arousal and faster orgasm, but the refractory period is slower, that means, the men need more time between one orgasm and another,

For women is the opposite, they take longer to have the desire, they take longer to have arousal, they take longer to have an orgasm, but once the women has reached the orgasm her refractory period is faster, quickly she is ready for a next orgasm, this is what makes women multi orgasmic.

For men, resolution is the phase following orgasm in which the penis begins to lose its erection. This is usually accompanied by feelings of extreme relaxation or even drowsiness.

Refraction, also known as the refractory period, is the stage following the climax, when a man is unable to achieve another erection, even with stimuli. In younger men, the refractory period can be as short as 15 minutes. In older men, it can last up to an entire day.

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